Welcome to Fern Valley

Here in central Alberta prime farm country,my husband Martin and I work together raising beef cattle and Appaloosa horses. Fern valley appaloosas have long been known for their quality of temperament conformation and color.I have recently rediscovered a love of writing and have published 2 collections of poetry. "Telling Tails" and Tails Trails and Campfire stories" . I look forward to a future spreading my wings as an author and as a horse woman .

Monday, 6 October 2014

Finding our feet again

As expressed in my last post .Martin and I both had our world tilted  by some very sad news, it felt like the the hits just kept coming . We spent most of last week spending time with family and preparing for the funeral service.
 Above is Martin and his siblings, below, with Aunt Honey and cousin Grant 
 I also connected with my friends (Mom Brown's daughters) and we shared over the phone many memories and tears. I also wrote a poem for her family that was read at the service , I was unable to attend as it was the same time as my father in law's. I would share the poem here but to honor her very private nature I will for the moment decline , other than to share the title ,which says pretty much what I thought of this lovely lady ."I thought I met an angel once "
The silver lining for me is that I was able to catch up with the girls ,in person for brunch on Sunday. And after a total panic attack ,where I thought "oh my ! what if they don"t love me any more ?" I went , and it was truly wonderful! we fell back into our old friendship  like no time had passed at all. Do they still love me? I think  so, I know I still love them.

But I am getting a little ahead of myself .
Friday was the service for Martins dad, and we were truly humbled by the outpouring of love and support.A big thank you to all who attended to honor him, and to support us!
The service was lovely and the family members who were able to stand up and speak for  him and us were so very brave in the face of their grief.

The weekend was a little low key, just about helping to find our balance again . We had company  on Saturday , Deb and Brian, and we headed out on our gators to just see some sights in our own personal patch of heaven. Did a little fencing , a little clearing and a lot of just enjoying the beauty around us.

 Martin's new workout regime 
 "oh ,you go to the gym? cute"

 "I played in mud and I liked it "
 A little hidden treasure, just off the hay field, blueberries,a peat bog and Tamarack 
 Just follow a little narrow path into a thicket and its like coming out the other side of the wardrobe door

 A little washing up after the dugout diving event 
 The Redneck dipping pool is officially done for the year 
"Its a Love seat mom!"

It was a perfect day, and we enjoyed a fire and wiener roast when we returned. Then got cleaned up and headed to a birthday celebration for my cousin , a good reminder that life ,in fact goes on.

So then back to Sunday, as I said I had brunch with the girls and families , then went to pick up Martins Auntie Honey, sister to his dad, and a spry young 87 yr old lady. Just a few weeks before , she lost another sibling , her sister Dee Dee. Dee Dee was a sweet lady who I had the pleasure of meeting a few times and who also loved to look at photos of my horses. She had exacted a promise from Honey that should she ever return to Alberta she had to go see the "Appaloosas" for her. Well Honey honored that promise and we went out to see the horses. 
 she is a very petite lady, but as you can see Tango is a huge kid, standing next to me in the first pic,it is hard to believe he is a yearling, he looks quite the giant next to her 

 Johnny Handsome , coming up to say hello 
 I think Dee Dee would be pleased 

Brought the cows in as well to wean calves to ship, so Honey says she will now tell everyone she was part of a cattle drive!

Weaned  today and sent them off, so it really is business as usual around here now . The cows out in the pens singing "the song of their  people" all night .Funny thing is I am not kept awake by that sound ,but can be awakened out of a sound sleep by the sudden deafening sound of silence that usually means they have gotten out and are in the hay or some other inconvenient place ! 

So were are slowly coming to our new normal here in the Sikstrom house, not the same as we were,but moving forward .Thank you for all of your kind words and support , you are all so very kind and much appreciated .
Stay safe my friends.


phaedra96 said...

You had a lovely time to remember that life does go on after heartbreak. You never forget, but time does help numb the hurt of loss.

kden said...

Old friends like that are the best. Your area sure is getting beautiful, we're still in a bit of a heatwave. Glad things are getting back to a 'new' normal for you.

Shirley said...

Nature and routine are great healers. Glad you got to connect with family and friends, that is the silver lining to funerals.
Winston is probably a good healer too.

C-ingspots said...

As you said, life does indeed, go on. Things will be different, as they always are after you lose someone you loved, but there are still good times to be enjoyed and lots to smile about. Sadly, it is as it is meant to be, here. Spending time with family and friends, and keeping busy helps a person move forward and find that new normal. So happy that you got to reconnect with dear, old friends Sherry! That is just wonderful! I would have had a minor meltdown beforehand too. :) Your pics are just lovely, but there are a couple that are absolutely beautiful! Especially the one with the horses in the trees coming in to say hello. Love that one!!

Nicole said...

I'm sooo sorry! Nature (and Winston) and critters will help you! Loving the photos.

Country Gal said...

Time will heal . Sorry for your loss ! I love the photos . Thanks for sharing , Have a good week !

Crystal said...

Oh that's a lot to go on at once. Im glad some good memories were made with Honey and your old girlfriends. Time does help heal and so does hanging out with family, friends, dogs and horses.
Tango looks huge, I have some pics of Dinero as a yearling and he was huge as well so glad I have small ponies now lol

Cut-N-Jump said...

Sounds like your family and friends have found some peace amid all the events of the past week. Sometimes it is best to find a place thats quiet to just take it all in or let the tears flow and let it al out. Glad you were able to reconnect with your friends and its like you all picked up where it was left off. I'm sure the tribute poem wqs a beautiful one. ;-)

Reddunappy said...

A wonderful post. So hard to lose them, but they are never forgotten. Beautiful up there!!